I’m not ready to be a father.
How do I know if the baby is mine?
What are my rights as a parent?
What if I don’t agree with my partner’s pregnancy decision?
If your partner recently told you she’s pregnant, you’re likely feeling overwhelmed with questions. But you’re not alone, and there are answers.
My Partner Told Me She’s Pregnant. Now What?
Hearing the words “I’m pregnant” from your partner can leave you in a state of shock. And while you might be tempted to react with high emotions, it’s best to give yourself time to think rather than responding to the news in the heat of the moment.
While it’s understandable to feel taken off guard by your partner’s news, it’s essential to help your partner feel supported right now. Remember that whatever you’re feeling, she’s likely feeling those emotions even more since she’s the one carrying the pregnancy.
How Can I Help My Partner Feel Supported?
No matter how you’re feeling about the pregnancy, it’s important to help your partner feel supported rather than pressured into making one pregnancy decision over another. The following tips can help you show your partner support:
Ask her questions
Your partner is likely in shock over the pregnancy. By asking her how she’s feeling and what she’s considering, you’re helping her see that you care and are there for you.
Help her find the support she needs
Has your partner confirmed her pregnancy through ultrasound? Has she talked to someone to learn about all of her pregnancy options (which include parenting, adoption, or abortion)? If not, help her find these free resources and services by contacting us today.
Be physically and emotionally present
Your partner is probably feeling overwhelmed right now. Let her know you’re there by listening to her and being physically present to attend doctor’s appointments, etc. When she shares her feelings, ask her follow-up questions that encourage her to go deeper.
Offer to help
Helping out with household chores and other daily tasks will be a big help for your partner, as she’s likely feeling more tired than usual (not to mention feeling nauseous from morning sickness).
Next Steps
Helping your partner feel supported is essential right now, but seeking your own emotional support is critical as well. This is why we offer a free dad-to-dad mentorship program designed especially for new fathers-to-be.
If you’re feeling stressed about your partner’s pregnancy and are looking for support and answers to your questions, contact us today to learn more and get enrolled. You’re not alone in this. We’re here for you.